I am writing this post in English because the people who died were part of my English world. This year as been particularly rough for funerals of some people who served their communities. It is particularly hard in a society like ours, where there are so much stuff, yet so many distractions and frivolousness that take us away from larger problems like justice, like the needs of our own communities and serving the humanity which surrounds us.
I would just like to highlight some of the wonderful people from whom I have learned a lot from.
Janice Giavedoni
Janice Giavedoni just passed away in December. A disbility activist, she regularly pushed the envelope as a student activist at Carleton University shocking people with talk of sex, the problems with telethons and other such things. Janice was instrumental in creating a policy at Carleton where students in residence could choose the gender of their personal attendant while living in residence. The Ottawa Women’s Directorate had chosen her as a noteworthy woman. This is an article, written by me, in 1995 which highlights her spunky attitude.
http://www.abilities.ca/learning/1995/12/01/the_next_generation/
Penny Parkes
I used to call Penny “the sage”. Another woman with a disability, Penny was a writer, a teacher, community activist and mentor. Penny was on the board of Santropol Roulant, and with me, she and I started a project called Telles Qu’elles which showcased the stories and artistic presentations of women with disabilities. Penny had an extreme influence and presence in other people’s lifes. Penny was a woman who had a deep influence on my life just because of her understanding and listening. She gave me some extremely good advice.
David Sealy
I will always remember David Sealy as one of the great-old bad boys of the academic world. He made fun of, well, everyone. A criminologist- he was interested in black studies, but he was more of a philosopher managing to make all the right enemies. David was committed to social justice, but not in that goody-goody earnest way that he despised. He liked to laugh…and to talk…and talk…and talk and talk. I remember missing many appointments because David was much too interesting than whatever else I had planned. David was involved in a lot of artistic projects, the Council of Canadians, community radio and many other things. There is a scholarship at York University in his name.
Dennis Deveau
Dennis Deveau one of my father’s friends and president of my father’s union which eventually amalgamated with the Steelworkers. He was responsible for a law which provided better protection of minors and successfully organized the Westray workers. But, more important to me, was the fact that he did try to provide spaces in the union for women, for people of diversity, for people like my father.
Mr. G. Ketharpal
A person who had worked a lot in the Indian community, he was a person who was very encouraging to a lot of people around him. I remember when I met him he gave me a wonderful lecture on the importance of doing service to your community. And that the more that you do, the more that you actually have in your life.
Hector Brito
Hector and I had many, many fights about politics. There seemed to be very little that we did agree on. But Brito was one of the people that helped Latino refugees when they first came to Canada. After fleeing the Dominicain Republic, he came to Canada and tried to work within the Latino community.
And then, I have to remember, the woman who inspired me the most, my mother:
Nirmal Dey
Unlike everyone else, her death did not happen this year, but relations with one’s mother are often more intense, and more complicated. My mother did do a lot of community work, and she did win awards for it. But that is not what interests me here. For me, my mother ensured,with all of her might, that I would be a feminist. She wanted for me to be independent. She saw that life was deeply unfair towards women, and she wanted things to be different for me.
I was at a very touching Unitarian service, this year, and the priest reminded us that we are all connected to one another and that every single one of these lives still continues to live through all of us. All of these people have managed to create within me, and within others, a space of hope and of justice. I think that everyone who has witnessed the lives of these seven people takes a seed of progress with them.
In a way, because of our connectedness, I see all of these people as part of my extended family in some ways.